Hello,
I wanted to recieve some advice about letting friends and family know that I am getting a nose job. Some backgroung on myself--I am 23, lots of friends, relatively confident and outgoing, was never teased too much (to my face at least), which I think was partialy because of my easygoing personality, and I never let myself seem hurt. Despite all of this, I am terrified of telling people that I am getting a nose job. I have never discussed my nose with friends. Never. I have friends that I've had since middle school. My nose is big. There is a very prominant dorsal hump on it, and it is truly bigger than any nose I have ever seen. While it is partially genetic (I would have never had a button nose), I also suffered a fall as a child, which my parents believe caused the hump to be bigger than intended. It didn't become so prominent until I hit puberty.

I am nervous about appearing fake, insecure, especially since I have never expressed any concerns in the past. This makes it more difficult to bring up. A nose job will be obvious on my face, and everyone I run into will have it on their mind. I realize I may sound silly, and the reactions of others shouldn't stop me from doing something that will make myself happier (and it will--every time I meet a new person, I immediately think that that is the first thing they notice/how they describe me/remember me), but I scared of being the laughing stock of friends, and appearing fake.

What I so far have planned to tell close friends is something along the lines of, it's obvious I have a large nose, I have never liked it, and because it's not even 100% due to genetics, I feel like fixing it will make myself happier, and I hope I'll be supported on it.

Somehow the stigma of nose jobs is so much more negative than tummy tucks, boob job, botox, etc, and even I feel it.

Any advice/reassurance/stories would be much appreciated! Thanks!
 
Ella

Hmmm. That's interesting. I basically just posted a status about it on FB, that way you don't have to really explain one to one unless someone has more questions about it. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. I posted pictures throughout my healing process, people find it highly entertaining to see others in pain. :) Although I know it won't be as easy as for you, try not to worry too much about their judgements on rhinoplasty. You might be overestimating the negative responses!

Hi, Ella,

I can appreciate your apprehension about telling people that you want to undergo a rhinoplasty.  You feel that you will be judged negatively.  Although there may have been a stigma attached to plastic surgery in the past, these procedures are very common and acceptable in our society today.  People choose to undergo plastic surgery procedures for a variety of reasons.  But the most important reason is to do it for yourself.  If your nose bothers you and prevents you from living your life to the fullest and you believe that undergoing a rhinoplasty will make you happier, I say go for it.  Sure, some people may judge you.  But those aren't the kind of people you'd want in your life anyway.  The people who truly love you will understand and support your decision.

Our sister site iEnhance.com has many real stories written by and about real people who have undergone different plastic surgery procedures.   I urge you to check them out.  Who knows?  Maybe one day you will share your story on our site and help others who are in a similar situation.

Please keep us posted as to what you decide to do.  I wish you the very best!

Anna

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